Thirteen things the twat who'd been on a gap year like, learned, man

GOING to university? You’ll shortly meet the gap year student who learned obvious lessons on their travels. Julian Cook passes on life lessons: 

We’re all, like, the same

Whether you’re a partner at my father’s law firm or like, a poor fisherman’s wife in Bali, we all want happiness. And whether that’s getting your Christmas bonus or not having your husband drown in a typhoon it’s all the same really.

Don’t have sex on a beach

I learned this the hard way on a beach in Bangkok. You know how after a trip to the seaside your car is always filled with sand for weeks, yeah? Same with your dick.

Locals are wonderful

There’s so much written about how awful foreigners are and how their cultures are worse than ours. Yet every local we met wore huge, beaming smiles while overcharging us for everything.

Leave your comfort zone

Opening yourself up to new experiences is so important. I’d never actually gone glamping before visiting this four-star resort in Cambodia, and suddenly I was living like Bear Grylls! 

There’s a different pace of life

The rat race of the Western world is too fast-paced compared to the luxury hotels my dad paid for on my travels. We could learn a lot from their slower way of life.

Treasure experiences over possessions

Our consumerist culture makes us forget that it’s lived experiences that stay with us. That’s why I was totally, like, chill when a pickpocket stole my iPhone in Indonesia. I was due an upgrade so I bear that sack of shit no ill will.

Respect local customs

Having the opportunity to respect local traditions is deeply moving, like the Full Moon Party in Thailand where locals enjoy the sacred ritual of selling dodgy MDMA to stoned Brits.

Understand suffering

The hours I spent volunteering in a school in a Nairobi slum will stay with me forever. I really got to experience everything those impoverished children were going through. 

Seize the day

You never know when you’ll next get chance to sky-dive with a drunk Australian you met on an all-nighter in Vientiane. Check your travel insurance hasn’t expired first.

Travel broadens your mind

Travelling offers you the opportunity to experience other ways of life. Like, did you know in Cambodia they eat spiders? Awful.

Struggle rewards

Climbing to the summit of Kilimanjaro to see the sunrise was a once-in-a-lifetime challenge, and I was thrilled to be able to share the moment with the locals carrying my bags.

Foreign prisons are no joke

If you buy a bag of white off an undercover cop, your father’s unlikely to know anyone in the My Doc place district to have a word with so you’ll spend a night in the cells. Would avoid.

There’s no place like home

There’s only so long you can spend living out of a rucksack before you pine for your parent’s apartment in Kensington. No wonder everyone is trying to come and live in the UK. My main takeaway is: we need stronger border controls.

Is your marriage fine or is your marriage 'fine'? Take our quiz

MARRIAGE is a special bond between two people who may or may not secretly loathe each other. Find out how yours is doing with this quiz:

What is your relationship based on?

A) Mutual respect and trust. Oh and love, of course.

B) A cripplingly large mortgage neither of us can afford to break free from.

When you hear the words ‘online dating’ your reaction is:

A) Terror. Each of us is so glad we don’t have to sift through the legion of sixes in our area anymore.

B) Terror. Has one of your wife’s friends seen your profile on Tinder again?

What’s the first thing you reach for in the morning?

A) The thing I love the most and knows me better than anything in the world: my partner.

B) The thing I love the most and knows me better than anything in the world: my phone.

When did you last have sex?

A) This morning. Twice. Jealous much?

B) What year did Crazy by Gnarls Barkley come out?

Do you have lots of mutual interests?

A) Yes, we both like cycle rides and playing tennis. We know we’re sickening but we’re too in love to care.

B) Yes, we both love passive-aggressive dishwasher loading and saying we’re ‘fine’ in a rage-filled voice before leaving the room.

Your idea of a perfect evening would be spent…

A) Snuggled on the sofa with my partner and leafing through our wedding photos.

B) Snuggled on the sofa by myself watching The Sopranos and eating a Toblerone I don’t have to f**king share.

Deep down, you married your partner because:

A) You were soulmates and they embodied everything you dreamed of in a partner.

B) You were 38 and your biological clock was going mental.

ANSWERS

Mostly As

You sound like the model of a perfect marriage, though if it’s still early days this is no achievement. Before long you’ll start to retch at their morning breath and the way they blink. Then you’ll be a real couple.

Mostly Bs

Congratulations! The seething hotbed of resentment that constitutes your marriage is in line with the vast majority of them. Why not take your relationship to the next level by having kids you don’t want?