A WOMAN who often says ‘do you want to’ is actually giving you an order, it has been confirmed.
31-year-old Emma Bradford said: “I just find that people are more willing to do things if they think it was at least a little bit their idea, and not just me barking my instructions at them.
“Prefacing a command with ‘do you want to’ gives them a sense that they’ve still got a chance to decide for themselves, which of course they haven’t.”
Bradford uses the technique to convince her boyfriend Tom Booker that he wants to clean the bath or put on a different shirt to go with his jeans.
Booker said: “I love that Emma asks me so many questions about what I want to do. It makes me feel loved, and not at all like the victim of a thinly-veiled mind control technique.
“And when she says ‘are you sure you want to do that?’ before I’m about to something, I reevaluate what I’m about to do, and more often than not, I don’t do it.”
“Without her, I wouldn’t know what I want at all. Or maybe I would. I’m not sure, I’d better check.”
